Below is an excerpt from the book Meritage Divorce, written in wine metaphors

 In the early stages of divorce, I recommend establishing a current baseline of your overall health. If you have any current health issues, you want to address them sooner versus later. The increased stress of divorce can potentially weaken your immune system. You don’t want your health to suffer more by the increased stress you are taking on. If you are given a clean bill of health, great, next is to maintain it and possibly even improve on some aspects of your physical health. See your personal physician for a complete physical examination and follow your doctor’s recommendations for any further evaluations.

Consider testing for sexually transmitted infections (STIs), sometimes referred to as sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) or “sediments” in a Meritage Divorce. You could be carrying a sexually transmitted infection with no visible signs and not be aware that you contracted it in your seemingly monogamous marriage blend.

A sexually transmitted infection (STI) is an infection passed from person to person through intimate sexual contact. This contact can be in many forms. I’m not going to list all of them here—use your imagination—you should know what happens when two bottles get together. There seems to be a presumption that a condom will protect you from all STIs. Not the case. For one thing, condoms can break. Also, some STIs are spread easily by skin-to-skin contact. You’d need a full body condom, which doesn’t exist.

Think you are not at risk? Think again. There are 19 million new infections each year according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Furthermore, newly divorced middle-aged women who sometimes feel they can no longer become pregnant and are not in the demographic to be at risk don’t worry about using condoms. Take off your rose-colored glasses and get some wine-colored glasses before it’s too late. Actually, the divorced pool of people having sex, and perhaps also a little naïve since they didn’t concern themselves with this while married, are potentially high-risk carriers as a result of not practicing safe sex.

Think you’ll take a pill and everything will go away? Think again. There are several that will be with you for life (unless a cure is found). We all know about HIV, but there are others that can be potentially life threatening. Take HPV for instance (Human Papillomavirus). Some sources estimate at least half of people who are sexually active will contract the HPV virus at some point in their lives. There are 100 or more types of HPV. Some types can cause cancer in various parts of your body. Ask your doctor about STIs, and ways you can protect yourself. In the case of HPV, It can be transmitted from skin-to-skin contact, so a condom is not a guarantee. At a bare minimum, use a condom.

If you plan on blending, why not ask them to see a doctor first and get tested for sediments? Then they can present a copy of the lab report before you go near them. Doesn’t sound very romantic? Neither do any of these sediments. Perhaps a Pinot Noir would be taken back by this request, but hey, you don’t want to cork yourself either.

Establish a baseline of Health and test for Sexually transmitted infections!

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